One thing I do know from the a lifetime of being an intuitive, both personally and professionally is that nothing in life is accidental. Everything one experiences is experienced at the right time, and has within it the seed of resolution to whatever challenge one is faced with. Every  set-back is actually an opportunity to engage with yourself and the world around you in a constructive and creative way, despite the difficulty with which circumstances may present themselves. If you engage willingly and consciously with your experiences by following your internal impulses, going on the premise that what you are experiencing is important to your personal growth and development, at all levels, you will discover that any difficulties will begin to loosen and relax, and instead give way to new possibilities and opportunities. In fact it is human nature to want to explore and innovate, to create something from nothing, simply because we are motivated by a powerful desire to be happy.

This does not mean however, that you will not experience discomfort as you make the necessary adjustments in allowing for a more positive frame of mind, as often we might harbour beliefs that do not serve us very well, but through prolonged habit we find difficult to discard due to their familiarity and false comfort. So the degree of adjustment necessary depends very much upon the belief expectations that you have about yourself and the world around you, and the conviction with which you hold on to them. All beliefs begin as an internal dialogue which as a thought process is a set of actions that then guide your physical actions and your experiences in life. Put simply, those who think in a certain way will only have experiences that validate their particular beliefs and expectations. Equally you will find that there are many experiences you haven’t had, and will not have because they don’t match your expectations. Of all the people in the world, we only ever communicate with a mere fraction of them, and that we might have anything in common with the people we do meet is by no means coincidental. In fact the odds of meeting someone who is similar to you in the course of your life, following the popular scientific line of enquiry should be nigh on impossible, given the quantity of people you might meet in a life-time. Yet it happens, frequently.

Having faith in a positive outcome when navigating through your experiences and changing your beliefs is important, and I’m not referring here to some esoteric notion of suspended belief, but rather the same kind of faith that is required in any ordinary, everyday expectation that you may have. You have faith that the sun will rise the next day because that is what you expect. In the same way, you can focus on a positive outcome by adapting your expectations to allow for the kind of thinking and behaviour that will automatically follow and thus lead you to experiencing it directly.

Your beliefs follow your expectations, so the reality that you experience around you is a direct reflection, or projection of your beliefs and expectations. You can demonstrate this simply enough by looking around you and seeing what or whom you see as direct projections, or extensions of yourself. Ask yourself what you think about what you see and how you relate yourself to that. Notice the beliefs that you reinforce or create as you make your assessment, then ask yourself if it is a belief that you feel is beneficial to you. Would you want others to share the same beliefs knowing that all and who of what you see is actually a projected form of you?

It is an exercise in developing a compassionate connection with your personal reality, internally and externally, so that your decisions and actions are formulated by a desire to experience value and quality, rather than separation and animosity.

In more abstract terms you will probably notice that your internal mood is reflected in your environment, in fact you may have difficulty separating the two, saying to yourself “well, I feel bad because I don’t like where I am”. If you change that statement to, “I don’t like where I am because I feel bad, and where I am looks unappealing because I believe that it causes me to feel bad”, then the choice to alter your perception becomes yours, no longer an affectee of your circumstances.

There are often wider influences in play in any supposedly chance experience. In conventional terms posited by Western cultures, time is linear, life is subject to unquantifiable random factors, so therefore when you enter into a space you react to its pre-existence based on the way you interpret sense-data. You thus formulate an opinion about what you experience based on that. If instead you work on the premise that nothing is random or coincidental, and that what you see and experience external to you is actually a reflection or projection of you as based upon your internal beliefs and expectations, then you give yourself the opportunity to change how and what you perceive, and in so doing you will begin to notice the way in which your circumstances will shift and alter to match what you expect to see and experience. You experience directly whatever it is you focus on, you will always create what you expect to create.

This is not as incredulous as it sounds, it is a simple fact of life that is continually overlooked, though not unobservable, because of the cultural beliefs that many of us adhere to and regard as immutable knowledge, or fact. You always have a choice to think differently, and to think in terms that are more beneficial to you and your personal development. Even if you cannot stretch your beliefs to entertain the notion that all that you see and experience is your creation at some level, then ask yourself what you would rather believe?

“I am a victim of circumstance and thus powerless to change anything.”


“I am able to create value, quality and fulfilment in my life, and how I do that is up to me. My experience will follow my expectations, so I will envision the most enjoyable life I can, full of health, vitality and love.”

The “Yes but” you will probably hear from certain corners of your mind when you read the second statement is an indicator of where you need to readjust your internal dialogue, and shift it to a more positive statement. None of us is beholden to anything or anyone, just by choosing to think differently we can change everything, quite literally.


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